Marrying For Money Makes Miserable Matches.
By Adamu Aminu
The Hausa proverb “Idan So Cuta ne, Hakuri Magani Ne” offers timeless wisdom, reminding us that patience is the remedy for desires that seem unattainable. This phrase resonates deeply with the struggles of many young women today.
A fictional movie poster depicting four women grappling with inner conflicts in their pursuit of a “ready-made” husband highlights a concerning trend.
Many young, educated, and attractive women are increasingly focused on securing a partner with financial stability. This aspiration, while understandable, often leads to disappointment and frustration.
For girls from less privileged backgrounds, the challenge is even more daunting. Naturally endowed with striking features and feminine physiques, they often find themselves dreaming of a life beyond their current means.
The desire for an affluent life overshadows contentment, leading them to overlook potential partners with modest means. The Hausa saying “Kwarya tabi Kwarya” – implying that like attracts like – seems forgotten in the pursuit of material wealth.
It’s apparent that for those from humble beginnings, finding a rich partner is a daunting task.
Rich people are daily becoming scarce and elusive, making this dream even more unattainable. Perhaps, it’s time to reevaluate priorities and focus on building meaningful relationships rather than chasing material wealth.
In fact, in every generality, there’s an exception, it’s essential to note that marrying for financial stability doesn’t always lead to misery.
Some couples build strong, loving relationships despite their differing financial backgrounds. When both partners share common values, mutual respect, and trust, their bond can flourish, regardless of their financial situation.
Ultimately, a successful marriage depends on more than just wealth; it requires emotional intelligence, compromise, and a deep understanding of one another.
As I draw the curtain down on the piece, it’s noteworthy to understand that, while marrying within one’s class of living can foster a sense of familiarity and shared values, females marrying for money is a different story altogether.
When financial gain becomes the primary motivator, relationships can become transactional, lacking the depth and intimacy that true love demands.
By recognizing the difference between pragmatic partnership and love-driven relationships, women can make informed choices that prioritize their emotional well-being and long-term happiness.
Adamu Aminu wrote from Abuja.
can be reached via adamuaminu40@gmail.com
